Pampering Your Husband Makes Him Feel That He Has The Best Wife On Earth
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning,
you fell in love with your spouse. You
anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and
liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In
fact, it was a completely spontaneous
experience. You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called "falling" in love - because
it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my
feet." Think about the imagery of that
expression. It implies that you were just
standing there; doing nothing, and then something
came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and
spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria
of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY
relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
become a bother (if they come at all), touch is
not always welcome (when it happens), and your
spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every
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marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference
between the initial stage when you were in love
and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start
asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as
you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of
the love you once had, you may begin to desire
that experience with someone else. This is when
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for their unhappiness and look outside their
marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and
sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But
sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie
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I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love
with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY
you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same
situation a few years later. Because (listen
carefully)
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN
MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
To be the best wife, SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous
experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You
can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
 day in and day out. That's why we have the
expression "the labor of love." Because it takes
time, effort, and energy. And most importantly,
it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to
make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love
is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you
can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed
with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe
(such as gravity), there are also laws for
relationships. Just as the right diet and
exercise program makes you physically stronger,
certain habits in your relationship WILL make
your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and
effect. If you know and apply the laws, the
results are predictable - you can "make" love.
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What makes a happy life-long relationship? Maybe, below thoughts can be to some help:
- Give you husband consideration and tenderness from dawn to dusk.
- Praise your husband.
- Settle your disagreements before you fall asleep.
- If someone must have the last word, make sure it is your partner.
- Never stop courting each other.
- Respect your husband's private life.
- Surprise your husband with presents.
- Do not scream with your husband.
- Ask for forgiveness, if you have done something wrong.
- Speak softly and kindly to your husband.
- Have fun!
Reasons why your husband loves a good relationship #1: They have someone to confide in. Guys need best friends too and having a girlfriend/wife fulfills the best friend slot in a different way. Sure, they like to knock back beers with their boys and wrestle each other to the ground (they can do that with you too), but to have someone there to talk about feelings and emotions is important to them, although they may never come out and admit it.
Reasons why your husband loves a good relationship #2: They are just as scared as you are about being alone. It's comforting for both men and women to know that they will grow old with someone they love instead of spending the latter years of their life wallowing away in a shack somewhere with wildlife they call pets.
Reasons why your husband loves a good relationship #3: Relationships keep them out of trouble. You're only young once and by all means, go out and live it up, but a what guys like about relationships is that they are not as apt to drink until they black out or go out and pick a fight at a bar or do reckless, dangerous things because they feel they have someone to answer to and have someone else to think of.
Reasons why your husband loves a good relationship #4: It makes them want to be a better person. Sounds cliché but it is true. Guys in relationships want to work harder, work out and improve their appearance, and keep focused because they are working for something (someone). It keeps them accountable and especially in the sense of marriage, guys want to know that they can provide for their family.
Husband loves a Wife that understand that they need their space from time to time.
It's very common for the woman to want to spend more time together than the man does. You just enjoy having him there, having him around you. Well, guys don't always feel the same way and that does not mean that he does not love you. What will really help him to feel that way is if you show him that you understand that he DOES need his space, and you can give it to him.
Husband loves a Wife that know how to let the small things pass without an argument.
One of the quickest ways that you can guarantee that a man will end up losing any interest in you is if you sweat the small stuff in a relationship. Yes, it might be a big deal to you, but to him, it might be nothing at all. You have to be careful about where and when you pick your battles because a guy will leave when it just happens too much. Men love a woman that can just let those things go without a big deal.
Husband loves a Wife that can make them laugh and goof around with them.
This is especially true if he has a pretty good sense of humor. To make a man fall in love, it's always good to be carefree and fun to be with. Of course, there is a time and a place for this, but show him that you do have that funny side, and he will definitely start to fall for you. You want to let him know that you can be a goof just like he is.
Consistent Communication:
The need for good communication in a successful relationship has almost become a cliche, yet it is critical. We need to identify our feelings and our needs and share them with our partners as appropriate. Pent up feelings can lead to resentments and resentments can drive a wedge between partners.
Be the best wife of good communication, and it must be CONSISTENT communication! Get in the habit of communicating regularly with your partner. If you wait until something HUGE happens to communicate, you may find that your ability to share it effectively and lovingly has become impaired or has atrophied. Communication is a skill that must be practiced regularly to keep the lines of communication open and to ensure a successful relationship.
Make Your Husband Your Priority:
Couples enter counseling because they have lost their connection, lost their passion and take each other for granted. You MUST make your partner and your relationship a top priority in your life. You must not only THINK this, you must EXPRESS it in words AND actions to your partner. Make having a successful relationship your priority and you go a long way towards achieving this.
Practice Appreciation Daily:
Give your husband your best ability as a wife by your appreciations. Daily appreciation is one way to demonstrate that you are making your partner a priority. While you may appreciate your partner, VERBALIZE that appreciation! Add this to your daily routine to create a successful relationship.
Create & Live Your Shared Vision:
Each partner enters their relationship with their own preconceived notions of what the relationship should be like. This is usually based upon the early modeling of relationship by their primary caregivers and extended family and friends. Since we each grow up in a different environment, we have different requirements and assumptions. These need to be identified, shared and negotiated early on in order to have a successful relationship.
Take care of yourself:
Finally, self-care is essential to any successful relationship. If you don't take the time to nurture yourself in mind, body and spirit, how can you possibly nurture your partner and your relationship. As they say during the pre-flight message on every airline, "put on your oxygen mask FIRST prior to helping others." Do what you need to do to be healthy and happy and you will be able to contribute much more towards having a successful relationship.
INJECT HUMOR INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Find Funny Opportunities: Sometimes funny things happen around us but we miss them. In fact things which are funny and deserve laughing are always around us. Find such things and spotting them will bring you more reasons to laugh.
Watch Funny Movies with Your Partner: There are lots of marvelous funny romantic movies or comedy shows that you can watch together. We absolutely love the show The Life and Times of Tim - which makes us burst out laughing every time!
Learn to laugh at Yourself: Sometimes we can't realize the funny level of what we had done or we may feel embarrassed about those things. Yes, we can! We are allowed laughing at ourselves - generally these embarrassments here and there aren't really that remarkable.
Act in a Goofy Romantic Way: Make a Ways-to-Say-I-Love-You List and get all sorts of crazy ways to express your love. A bar of chocolate, a bowl of breakfast cereal or a lovely
handbag - they may be all goofy ways to insert a little pleasure to the relationship. However, don't be afraid to act as silly as a kid sometimes - you'll be surprised what a difference you have made in your in your relationship.
Now live the happiest life with your husband, give him the best love and pampering. Be the best wife that you can be and he will feel he's the luckiest man in the world, and surely, he will give you back all the love and pampering you're giving him. It's just a matter of a give and take relationship. But think of this, do more of the giving part, dont think that you will receive something in return.. and you will be surprised, love and happiness will flourish along the way. Enjoy Life!
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